Sometimes people meet each other online and start dating, other times they start their relationship in the same location and one person has to move away.
It is not always easy to break off such relationships and the blanket saying that long-distance relationships do not work isn’t always right. So, how do you enjoy your long-distance relationship?
Unsurprisingly, long relationships are kept the same way relationships are; through intimacy and communication.
So how do you maintain the spark in a long-distance relationship?
You both need to talk to each other all the time. Talking includes phone calls and instant messaging or chats.
When you just met that boy or girl you liked, you wanted to talk to them all day long. You have to maintain that same energy.
If your job doesn’t allow you to chat all day, you can make timed phone calls – morning, afternoon and night. Put their time zone in consideration if you aren’t in the same time zone.
You have to take them through your day from when you wake up to when you fall asleep. You can improve this by taking pictures of your daily activities and sending them to them.
The video call technology must have been invented for long-distance relationships because there are so many things to do on a video call.
You can watch a movie together, listen to music and dance on a video call, take each other along to a restaurant or the mall or any other activity you can do while simultaneously being on a video call.
Do Stuff Together Even Though You’re Apart
Just because you aren’t physically in the same place doesn’t mean you can’t have fun together. Plan a movie night together via Skype where you can watch the same movie even when you’re in different places,
Netflix, or other streaming services, makes it easier than ever to binge-watch shows with your partner. doing online quizzes, study plans or games together, and discussing the results to spark new and interesting conversations.
Be Confident in Your Relationship
According to both Lee and Rudolph, insecurity can lead to one partner checking in on the other one too often. This can result in excessive calls and texts being sent for the wrong reasons, and can lead to unnecessary tension.
The constructive reason couples communicate is to provide their partners with a sense of their lives and what’s important to them. When the communication is hijacked by insecurity, the anxious partner will not be reassured, and the other partner will be turned off by the constant checking [in].
Plan physical meetings
Finally, it must not feel like work. When you start doing it from a sole point of duty and not because you enjoy talking to them, that is a bad sign and you might have to plan a physical meeting.
Even if it takes a while to physically meet, planning a physical meeting gives you something to look forward to.
If you are committed to making a long-distance relationship work, then it will.
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I totally agree with you.